we are legal

31 Mar

so today was adoption day. i wanted to post a before and after picture for you but it looked exactly the same so i opted against it.

don’t get me wrong i am happy to live in a state that allows second parent adoption. but really it is a somewhat futile formality. an expensive formality at that. the process is relatively straight forward. you hire attorney. attorney petitions court. home visit is waived. affidavits attesting to our relationship are submitted. putative fathers registry search is completed. fingerprints submitted. background check of m completed. and judge says yay you are a family. (so what were we before that?)

when hook was born i adopted him. and now with the wigglers m adopted them. so both of our names are on the birth certificates for all three. does this change anything? um no. but i does afford us some protection should anything go horribly amiss with one of us. it was anti-climactic. and quick. i wanted the judge to recognize how the need for a second parent adoption in this situation is ridiculous. then again i want a lot of things that aren’t happening right now. i don’t often stand on my soap box on my blog but the lack of recognition of our thirteen year relationship by the state or the federal government more than ruffles my feathers…another day another post perhaps. today was adoption day. and it was a good day.


4 Responses to “we are legal”

  1. Claire 6 ThuUTC2011-03-31T22:00:44+00:00UTC03bUTCThu, 31 Mar 2011 22:00:44 +0000 2009 at 10:00 PM #

    I came over from the color photo blog thing on Offering of Love’s blog. Congrats on the adoption! I know, it’s a ridiculous, expensive formality that we are supposed to be grateful for…
    Your family is beautiful.

  2. cindy 6 FriUTC2011-04-01T07:34:06+00:00UTC04bUTCFri, 01 Apr 2011 07:34:06 +0000 2009 at 7:34 AM #

    exciting nonetheless! congrats!

    btw, i felt the same way. yeah it very quick, but i was surprised that i didn’t feel anything different after than i felt before. then later i realized it was b/c nothing changed. the judge saying it was so didn’t change a thing for us.

  3. AnOfferingOfLove 6 FriUTC2011-04-01T08:16:16+00:00UTC04bUTCFri, 01 Apr 2011 08:16:16 +0000 2009 at 8:16 AM #

    i totally understand the frustration – its insulting to have to jump through so many hoops that straight families dont.

    (still…im insanely jealous since i live in a state that doesn permit 2nd parent adoptions)

  4. strawberry 6 FriUTC2011-04-01T09:43:17+00:00UTC04bUTCFri, 01 Apr 2011 09:43:17 +0000 2009 at 9:43 AM #

    Congrats on a step that shouldn’t be necessary! What a beautiful family 🙂

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